He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not!
Ok, so I don’t intend to write about TV shows too often, but let’s talk about “The Bachelor”. I think because I am, and always have been, a romantic at heart, I watch “The Bachelor” every season and hope for the best! As far as I know, Ryan and Trista are the only two who are happily married, but here we are at season 15 or 16 and I’m still watching!
So here’s what happened. Last season DeAnna Pappas, who had not been chosen the previous season, was selected as the new bachelorette. It came down to Jason, a single dad and Jesse, the snowboarder. She picked the snowboarder. Uh… anyway. Since Jason was so “boy next door-ish” and a sweet single dad whose son meant everything to him, Jason became the new bachelor.
He had 25 women to choose from. It got down to Molly and Melissa. I liked them both but leaned toward Melissa, however, my instincts told me he would choose Molly. He chose Melissa. He explained it to Molly, walked her to the car while listening to her tell him what a big mistake he had made, and then walked back in the house and almost fell over the balcony (I exaggerated a little bit) because he was crying so hard after letting Molly go! Was this our first clue or what!!! He then goes in, gets on one knee and proposes to Melissa. Yippie! Especially since Melissa had been dumped/hurt three times before and had never been the one to do the dumping. Life was good. Fast forward to six weeks later when we get to see them and hear how things have been going since he proposed. I knew something was up when Chris Harrison – the host – said there would be no audience because of the tricky nature of what was about to happen.
They bring them out and Jason breaks up with Melissa and lets us all know he is still in love with Molly and is going to ask her for another chance! OMG! Melissa is hurt and dumped for the fourth time! She leaves the stage and Molly comes out. Molly is hurt too! She is hurt because he initially dumped her for Melissa but then…he begins to talk and tells Molly that on national TV he just dumped Melissa and asks her if they could go out for coffee or drinks and see if they can’t have another shot. She looks startled but eventually – seconds or minutes later – says, yes. Duh! Just like that! Six weeks of hurt vanishes and she takes him back! Old timers use to say, if he’ll do it to her for you, he’ll do it to you for somebody else! Molly, I’m just saying…
So last night – six weeks later again – they show us Molly and Jason who are so happy. Boo Hiss! I liked Jason and I felt bad for him because DeAnna didn’t choose him when he was one of the 25 hopefuls. Now he topped that and hurt Molly for six weeks and now Melissa, possibly for life. As much as I enjoy the romance of it all, I am mad at ABC and “The Bachelor” and think they should not have shown this on TV. This right here is the kind of thing suicides are made of! It is one thing to have your heart broken and be humiliated; it is another to have it done publicly!
As far as Jason goes, he is always crying, he is a whiny boy, and said he did what he did because he had to follow his heart. As much as I liked him, I have now lost respect for him. They should have never publicized this turn of events! I know when these men and women sign on the dotted line, all bets are off, but this went too far. This turn of events was unprecedented and, I feel, should have been left for them to work out without America watching. These are real people!
So I guess this is what I want you to tell me:
• Is following your heart ALWAYS the right thing to do regardless of who gets hurt?
• How do you feel about a CRYING WHINY boy on national TV? I saw one news report talking about the fact that Jason cried so much on the show and how women feel about men who cry.
• Have we gone too far with the countless made-for-television romances?
I know this is a diversion from our normal topics but according to how we roll here in the good ole US of A, this is the news of the day! We’ll get more serious tomorrow. Stay tuned and holla back!
I watched the finale pt. 1 & 2 with my husband. He adamantly says you can’t love two people at the same time. I’m not totally sure that I agree with that. I think you can love the qualities and character enough to think you’re in love with two people at the same time, but maybe only truly be in love with one. If you really access who they are, how they fit with your life, and your feelings for them, you should be able to make a sound decision as to who is the right one for you. That’s in everyday day life without the temptation of 25 beautiful women vying for your love and attention. The problem with these reality shows is that there’s not anything that depicts real life. They’re so over the top beefed up that it almost makes you think you’re watching a soap opera where everyone’s a doctor, lawyer or self-made multi-millionaire and there aren’t any limits or repurcussions for their actions. The fact that you can make out with all these women and they all just put up with it is also not reality. I guess that’s probably one of the reasons why there haven’t been any brothas or sistahs as the bachelor or bachelorette yet. Although Jason is a little too in touch with his feminine side, I don’t have a problem with the final outcome, even though I don’t think he should’ve waited to make that announcement on TV. If he knew how he felt not long after it happened, he should’ve been a man and told Melissa as soon as he realized what was really happening. I think all that drama was specifically made for TV. I did have an issue with the fact that Melissa’s parents wouldn’t meet him on the show. And somebody please tell me where is Ty’s mother? Is she alive, dead or just choosing not to be a part of all of this? I didn’t see all the episodes so I don’t know.
Ty’s mamma didn’t want him and willingly gave him to Jason. I agree with everything you said! Here’s the one thing I didn’t put in there, DeAnna came back right before he chose between the two women, said she made the wrong decision, and basically asked Jason if he still wanted her. He said no, thank God however, she then told him to not look at the excitement of how he felt but go with the one he thought would be stable, etc. I think that is what he did, and apparently and unlike her, he needed excitement and not stability. I get DeAnna because; understandably women look for stability vs. excitement more, while men come bringing stability, thus look for the excitement aspect more. With that said, some of this mayhem has got to be blamed on DeAnna!
Holla! I hear you about brothas and sistas! Would not happen! But I think it is high time we had an “other than white” on the show. Doesn’t have to be black, just someone representing the rest of the world!
I hated what happened and think that he is a dumb spineless pig! Like one of the girls said last night before I fell asleep on the foolishness you don’t go from having that much of an emotional response for dumping one to then propose to another. He should have just kept seein both in the real world or something. One would think he would be carefulafter a divorec and being dumped and knowing Melissa’s history. But no! He is exactly what she called him cuz no real father would teach their son to do what he did. Let’s not even talk about how dumb Molly is. I liked Melissa and Jillian way better but am glad they don’t have a jerk to content with for the rest or at least part of their life! And let’s not forget about Ty! Somebody said his mom should file for custody! Lol!
So Ty’s mama didn’t want him? I betcha she’ll be trying to crawl her way back into the picture after she sees the fame Jason’s getting and the fact that some other woman will be raising her child, unless she’s a heartless you know what. As for DeAnna, I really think she’s trying to ride the whole 15 minute wave. I couldn’t believe it when I saw her, but I guess they were really going for drama this season. By the way, that was a good look at stability vs. excitement.
It would be very interesting to see a mixed race individual take the lead on one of these shows since that’s kinda in the spotlight these days. And what about a 40+ singles crew? Would that be too boring or too gross? I guess I’ll just have to keep watching.
Karlissa, I didn’t hear that one about his mother should file for custody, lol.
I would love to see them do an “any other race”, mixed, pure or whatever Bachelor or Bachelorette! And 40 plus, bring it on! 40 is the new 30! Let me go and call ABC and see what I can get stirring!
I watched Bachelor once(maybe twice) but I quickly lost interest. Faces of color would not have made a difference. I questioned the sincerity of the characters just like I did when my daughters were entertained by FlavaFlav and New York.
Didnt watch this season except the last episode.. That was so unexpected.. but I would def watch if there was a black couple.
@Kendall Blake – You can watch it with a black couple, but it will have to be on another network.
For the Love of Ray J
I Love New York
Flava of Love
Am I missing any?
I do not watch it. Judge Judy said she watches it and so does Ellen De.
so i am excited to know that jason isn’t as much of a pig that i thought he was. turns out, per melissa on ellen today (here’s the interview link http://omg.yahoo.com/news/bachelors-melissa-jason-and-molly-betrayed-me/19634?nc), that they broke up shortly after they left the show. BUT seems they snowballed us both and were actually talkin! maybe they are really good actors and would shed light onto the fact that they fell back in love all kissin and stuff as soon as he announced he wanted to try again! SHAME!!!
@Brian Jones – and they are all a mess! ray j? seriously? and lets not talk about the fact that the real monkey is new york! and seriously, a grown man who wears clocks and yells out his own name all the time that looks like a monkey’s butt? sorry jesus for talkin bout your creations…lol
Uh Karlissa…I’m glad you told Jesus you were sorry…..all are precious in His sight….
When I took and missed (South Carolina done got in my vocabulary)- (not really, I’m just kidding) and watched Ellen and heard her say WEEKS ago he had made his choice, I had no further desire to watch. What drama!!! I hope they will all find the person they are meant to be with. It bothers me a lot that these women not only have to deal with rejection after not receiving a rose, but it’s on national TV for the whole world to see. I don’t enjoy the Bachelor anymore.