Kids Gone Wild! Bring Back The Village!!!
They used to say it takes a village to raise a child. As with so many things that have disintegrated, so has the village. The villagers moved to the “burbs” and they want to be the only ones with the daunting task of raising Johnny! I personally think it is a team effort! Yes, the parents have the final say. but it’s very refreshing to have help in so many aspects of raising that little one. When we grew up anybody in the church could get on you. I remember my friend and I were cutting up while the preacher was delivering the sermon and he called us out!!! Uh… needless to say, I got in trouble when I got home too! And don’t let a teacher get on you at school and then let the parents know. Ooooo wee! It was on! There was no hot headed mamas and daddies rolling up in school going postal on the administration. No sir! (there was always an exception, even way back then) If those kids had to be at school six hours a day, under the tutoring of that person, and in essence being raised about ½ of the day, five days a week by that person, wouldn’t it make sense for that person to have some leeway with the care and discipline of the child? Use to be. Not today!
It is hard raising a child. Other than marriage 
) I think it is the hardest job in the world!!! To me, today’s parents (generalization) are the laziest, most lackadaisical, lenient, wanting to get rid of their kids, parents I have ever seen! Children are so misbehaved these days. They will cuss at you, disregard you when you tell them something, threaten you with their mama or daddy, some may even pull a weapon on you! I’m just saying!
There are a lot of new age methods for raising children that tout a new and better way to make Johnny come out better than the last batch! Statistically, children are worse today than ever! And it all starts young. This is family week, but check out the two scenarios below and tell me what would you do.
Scenario #1: You just bought new furniture and it is but a few weeks old. You still enjoy the fresh leather smell every time you walk in your house. You have gotten compliment after compliment on your exquisite taste in picking this combination. You are pleased with your decision and plan to enjoy your furniture for years to come. One day your friend comes over and their child is, instead of sitting down in your new leather chair, jumping to sit in your chair! Repeatedly! You and the mother are standing right there! Your adrenaline is forcing your heart to double the beats per minute as you watch your expensive furniture disrespected. But not only are you watching, the mother is watching too! And the child; the child keeps eyeing you and essentially saying, nah nah nah nah nah. You can’t say anything to me or my mother will go off on you! Help somebody!!!
Scenario #2: You’re at the grocery store standing in line. A mom and little one are standing behind you. The little tyke keeps running their kiddy cart into the heel of your foot…and it hurts! The mother is on the cell phone paying absolutely no attention to this state of affairs. The first time you kind of turn around and look at the child and then up at the mother, smile and step up a little, hopefully out of the range of the tykester. You do this two more times but it is apparent, little Johnny/Johnita is making a sport of running into your foot! The mother is oblivious to this baby crime spree. Should you interrupt the mother’s call and ask her for a band-aid!!!
In each scenario the parent is not doing their job! If you know me, you know I have said so many times, the two easiest things to train are pets and children. That is why God gives them to us at birth! But society today is made up of parents, especially the parents of the “I hate to see that kid coming” little kids, that don’t want to train their child yet don’t want you to say anything to their little china doll!
So in each of these situations, what do you do? Would you say something to the parent? Would you say something to the child? Would you just say nothing and take action and lift the child out of your chair and make them stand the rest of the visit? Would you take your items and get in another check out line? Would you beat the snot out of the child or better yet, the parent? Just kidding!!! (although I am convinced, there are not really bad kids, but bad parents) Seriously, what would you do? Let us know and share your experiences with the village and without the village. Holla back!
In scenario 1 I would politely say “No no no Johnny. We don’t jump on the furniture here” while I’m looking at both he and his disrepectful mother. If that didn’t work, my tone would change while I removed him from the furniture myself.
In scene 2 I wouldn’t even say anything to either of them. I would bend one of my legs backwards and hold it there, which should prevent him from hurting me anymore. Or I could be nice and move to the front of my cart and let him hit the back of my cart instead of me. Or I could turn around and growl at him to try and scare him to death.
lol. I like the growl at him. In the scenario, I don’t think I have a cart. Just a few items in my hands.
Oops. Missed that. Then you can use the backwards leg, growl or quickly step aside when he tries it the next time and see if he runs into the next person.
No one has money to waste. you don’t go out and buy new furniture everyday. I would tell Johnny not to jump on my furniture and I would also tell his mother that my furniture is new and I would like to keep it that way for a while.
Then I would also ask her why she did not say something when she saw him junping on the furniture and tell her if she can’t control him when he is at my house I will. And if she did not like it she cold stay at honmewith little Johnny. And On #2 sometimes you can glare at a kid all you want and it still will not make them any difference because they know their mother will let them get away with it so again I say you have to confront the mother right then and there.
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Only a complete imbecile or someone really weak would endure either of these situations. I’d directly address the child and the parent in both.
If momma don’t like it she can take her behind and little “Chucky” home. If he needs to play that bad he can go outside. I have 2 pitbulls that like to get rough. Five minutes with them should be enough (Play time) therapy for the little inbred.
Some parents think their kids are it and they do no wrong. So nothing you do or say will make a difference.
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@delores goodson – I Agree. LAwd knows I dont’ feel like pulling off these nails, undoing my weave and getting out these heels, buttt like Karen said before “don’t make me got there.” Cause some of these ghetto mommas want to fight if you say something to one of their litter.
Y’all got me laughing! All three of you but seriously, in real life, would you actually do what you are saying you would do? In scenario one, this is a person/family you will have to deal with on a regular. In the second one, that might be your one and only time for ever seeing those folk. These are matters you can’t really control happening, unless in #1 you don’t let them in your house, but in other situations that I can control, I just stay away from these types of children! My new line I say to my husband is: you know I don’t like kids. You know I only like my grandson and my niece K. (joking… or am I????
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If you go to church enough or frequent certain places enough that have the same crowds over and over, you know the misbehaved little ones and the parents that let them get away with these types of shenanigans. I stay away from them! And if I do decide to go somewhere and am caged in with them, I mentally prepare myself and expect the worse and hope for the best! It is that serious at times! I have a 2 ½ yr old grandson and I want people to like/love him. But I try to be honest (it’s hard when you are a grandmama) and see him and his little actions for what they really are but, when and if he does become “the kid that everyone hates to see come” I will keep him with me! There is no need to infringe upon other people’s space with that! Or if there is no way to avoid it, I will keep him in check while around others. (But y’all, he is a good boy
) and so very precious!)
The sad thing is, whether parents are oblivious to it or not, these kids get talked about soooo bad and the parents aren’t far behind!
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You need to let me keep your kids for a week if you think I’m playing.
I’m fact you should be glad I didn’t raise you. I’d would have warmed your little bloomers up. Ask my kids and see what they tell you. In fact I told them that if they bring the grand kids and they act up I’m going to heat them up too. And if the parents don’t like it they can get some too.
Wish i had of had that Deloris…
Both situations call for some situational awareness from the parents. As parents, we shouldn’t want our kids to be a burden to someone else no matter how cute we think their behavior is.
I think my daughter is cute as a button, but sooner or later I’m going to set those little legs on fire! For me, when a child knows what they are doing and it is wrong, a correction is in order. The specific correction depends on the action, but I can tell you right now there will be no timeouts unless I get tired.
Well I would just tell the kid to quit in the first one and in the second one I would turn around and look and maybe eventually ask them to stop
Well, I’ve had scenario #1 at my house except different furniture and the Mother looked at the kid and said,”Karol Ann is gonna get you”….needless to say I didn’t offer too many more visits to my house to the family and we drifted apart. Parents are adults and know their bad children are acting up so if they won”t handle “badness” I would say something as the others have said like, “no, no we don’t do that at this house”. #2 would require getting the Mom’s attention from the cell phone call I think because kids don’t respect looks like we did back in the day, they just glare at you harder when you look at them trying to get them to stop. Action would need to be taken in both cases dealing politely with the parent I believe. The Winans said it best, “Bring back the days of yea and nay…” things were clearer then!