I’m Telling The Truth For 24 Hours, Ask Me Anything…
Season Greetings!
At about 5:00 am this morning I guess I was finish sleeping so I got up and am writing to you. Although I don’t want to take away from the conversation of our five random questions and still look forward to comments regarding Motivational Monday, I saw something interesting on Facebook yesterday and wanted to share it with you and hear what you had to say.
Somebody said (in all caps) he would tell the truth for 24 hours and invited everyone to ask him one question – in his inbox – and he would answer it. It could be anything: a crazy question or a serious question. I thought it very interesting that he designated one day to telling the truth. To be fair, let me tell you that he also said, in parenthesis, that this doesn’t mean he is untruthful at other times. And let me say, I am not judging him, I just think it is interesting.
Here’s my question: could we be/are we truthful at all times? I remember the movie Liar Liar and the sheer havoc it created when he decided to tell the truth. Would a world full of 100% truth tellers create more havoc than a world full of people telling lies or at best, being deceitful? If I ask you if you like my boots and you don’t like them, is saying: “wow, they are really something” an answer to my question or deceit? Sure, it is not a straight out lie but isn’t it deceit? I would probably walk away thinking you like my boots or you are at least impressed by my boots! lol. Is there anyone that would say: “no, I don’t like them” and stop talking right there? I don’t think so, even I would probably say, “Girl if you like them, that is all that matters, they are not really my style“. I guess that is going around the barn to say, no I don’t like them but is my response even pure truth and honesty? I’m just asking. Could we all vow to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth for 24 or life?
I know most of us would say our reason for not telling the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth is because we don‘t want to hurt someone’s feelings right? I get that but at what cost? You know me and how I bring the Christianity thing into it but this time I will not. I will not even ask the question if pleasing God with truth at all times is on John Public’s mind these days. I will just go back to my original curiosity: could you go for 24 hours and tell the truth?
Holla back!
P.S. – ain’t Tiger a mess??? Pray!!!
Whoever the guy was that posted that on his facebook was either a little ingenius, knowing he’ll probably get lots of hits with some very crazy questions or just plain crazy because he’ll surely get some really weird questions that he’ll have to answer truthfully. But the more I think of it, what would keep him from answering them with some deceit, as you say, or even embellishments. Anybody that didn’t really know him would not know if it were the truth or not. Thinking of that leads me to suggest to you to consider starting a fictional story line and have your fellow bloggers add to it and see where it goes and how many hits you get from that. It could be very fun.
Regarding your question, I try to tell the truth all the time, but I will admit being “deceitful” or “politically correct” when I feel it’s necessary. I don’t necessarily mind being told the complete truth about something that may not be favorable towards me, as long as you use the right tone or tone of words. Raw truth all the time can be hurtful and offensive if the one telling the truth has no sensitivity about how they say their words and who they might be hurting. I usually try to steer clear of those type of people.
As for Tiger, hopefully the fact that he got busted will cause some of the others out there that are doing the same things to reconsider their actions and the repercussions it would have on their lives if they were busted too. He’s world renowned and the best in the world at his profession and that gives this story so much power behind it. He needs prayer and counseling.
I was with you until you got to Tiger. Lord what is the matter with men? Did you hear it is up to 7 women. There is no sense in that and that when the police came and found him , he was lying on the ground snoring and he did not have on any shoes, like he had to leave in a hurry. He has not done any more than a lot of other men but did it have to be so public. About the boot thing. Instead of them asking you if you like the boot. When they had already bought the boots and was wearing them what difference does it make if you like the boots or not. Even if you tell them the truth and say no , they are not going to take the boots back. So don’t jeopardize your relationship with God. Tell her to ask you no questions and you will tell her no lies, then quote Revelations 21:8. If you say no she will still wear the boots aagain. By the time she figures out what you said when you quoted the scripture she will go away and leave you alone.
.-= delores goodson´s last blog ..Beck in Hot Water Over Endorsement =-.
Agreement with Monique on: Raw truth all the time can be hurtful and offensive if the one telling the truth has no sensitivity about how they say their words and who they might be hurting.
My Response: Kathy I must admit, I have been running and dipping from telling people the real truth when they ask me “Do I look Fat?” Does this hairstyle look good on me?” And I got these on Sale girl, don’t they look good on me!” And I can see now, that not really saying the real truth even in sensitivity did not benefit anyone. If they asked me they must somewhat value what I think right?
My last husband asked me the truth about something and I told him the truth, he tried to take life from me. Literally. Could I have said it differently? Yes. Would we still have gotten divorce? Possibly, but it would not have been so destructive and damaging. Thank God Years later I was able to see him and ask for forgiveness and he asked the same from me.
So no, I have not been truthful and fair in that aspect and many other curvy situations that boarder hurting someone’s feelings, and if I believe my safety or my child is concerned. I am not clean. I will need to work on this for sure….Can I tell the truth for 24 hours to Life? Can’t honestly answer that right now.
As for Tiger, I will keep praying for him and his Family. It is easy to pick at someone else’s flaws when they are exposed and let your mess dangle about unseen. If we could play back the Video in some men’s & women’s minds they would be guilty just the same……Adultery begins in the mind first.
@delores goodson – ROTFL! RARELY if ever, do I ask people if they like what I am wearing, I am confident enough to be okay without asking other opinions (and there are very few people whose style I like enough to ask anyway). It was just the first example that came to mind!
@Monique Davis – Sup, I agree about raw truth. And what’s funny about people who tell raw truths, they are usually the ones that couldn’t take it if you gave it to them or have a lot of nerve saying whatever it is anyway! Sister Betty Ledford used to say: consider the source!
In the movie – Liar Liar – he wsa telling raw and hurtful truth. I referred to that movie because the basis was simply, him telling the truth at all costs.
@Yolanda Marion – lol. I will admit, I hem haw myself at times in efforts to not hurt someone’s feeling. There are times when I just end up saying, now do you want me to tell you what you want to hear or do you want me to tell you the truth. As far as women, I have one girlfriend that I went shopping with and I asked her if a top made me look fat and she honestly told me yes. I liked the top and I didn’t want to hear that but because she was my firned and I knew she loved me, I knew she had to be correct and I had to look fat in that top! I didn’t buy it!
I am sorry to hear about the episode with your husband.
I hate what is happening to Tiger. I don’t think any one person should have their life on display like that.
Delores I feel like what you said is very biased. What’s up with men?
Tgier wasn’t going around sticking his sausage in microwaves. Those women knew he was married. My question is What is up with women??
My sleeze bag ex wife is a perfect example. I did her well and she was humping every dog in the county.
I think sex is the most pwerful thing known to humanity. Sicne getting divorced I’ve had a few dates, but all that ever seems to come up is sex or ” can you help me with bill?”
The world is full of dogs. Male and female.
That is a fair Statement Charles, all of them knew he was married and they entered into a consentual agreement to cheat on his wife……That’s like Mary being thrown at the feet of Jesus for Adultry….Where was the Man? Putting his Sausage in the Microwave?!
@Charles Davis Jr – Hi Charles. Good to see you. I might not have said it with the same raw honesty, but I do agree with you. The world is full of them, male and female.
That was funny Yolanda.
I’m not sure what to do about sex. It is so good and sometimes a person can get really horney and the feeling makes you want sum sex really really really bad…
When it gets like that a person has to do something…themself, someone or something. I don’t see how a man could turn down a really sexy women if they’ve been drinking…
If I can be honest I think Tiger is an addict and has alcohol problems…
The reason is because why would he be taking Vicodin this long after his surgery? I think he got hooked taking those pills after his surgery. It’s been a year and he has no injury that would require narcotics…
The subject of men has been talked about and I have to agree with Charles. When are men going to have an “Oprah” moment and someone ask one of these waitresses/models/hostesses the question: why is such a beautiful woman such as yourself with someone like “Joe Ugly But He Has A Big…Account?” It has been going on for years and it isn’t talked about. It is beauty and the rich beast all over the place.
Even CNN has eye candy/newscasters. Come on, I know someone else is more qualified even though they aren’t as nice to look at. We lose perspective because of how people, most of the time it is women, look.
What’s up with that? Are there any women who care to address this issue?
.-= Tom Sawyer´s last blog ..Tiger’s Scorecard =-.
I agree that try as we may there are times when we are on the border with truth because we, as women, are taught to be nurturing and not mean or insensitive. I do believe I could tell the truth for 24 hours but know that I make disclaimers prior to saying something I think might hurt like, “Im not trying to be mean” “I don’t mean any harm” or “I know the Lord probably doesn’t like this BUT” and proceed to go on and say what I have to. Also, I have left things out or not said all I should have being deceitful either intetionally to not feel bad myself about my failures or unintentionally not to hurt feelings of others. I can do better and will try to do so in the future.
As for Tiger…I agree with Tom and Charles, the women knew and could have just as easily said “no” instead of “yes” but it seems easier to just give into lust than fight it!!!! We can and will pray, but this is so much bigger than what was 1st reported and it’s because of who it’s about. Isn’t it sad that the 1st golf billionaire….all that money and still unhapiness. The EXACT reason I’m glad to know the Lord and the happiness following Him gives me…of my own free will Charles!!!
@Karol Ann –
What is happiness? Is it not a relative state of mind? I know christians and they aremn’t happy all the time. I think as people age they learn how to put up with things better than when younger. For the most part people are a pain in the butt. We put up with them for various reasons. I honestly like to be alone unless I want something or need to talk about something.
Now that I look back on it being married was a drag sometimes. I wasn’t able to be honest about how I felt, but I did want to tell that witch that she was geting on my nerves.
Next time I will. I’m not going to hold anything back. I think Tiger was bored. Pretty or ugly I think most women sort of end up in the same way. They kind of get on a person’s nerves. Now most guys won’t admit that but they think it…. That’s being honest about how I really feel.
If you can not be free with the person you have married for life, and I repeat LIFE….Then it is time to re-evaluate the relationship and get counseling. Marriage can be a Prison or Disney World. Happiness is a State of Mind. This is how the Devil Attacks in the Mind. He only suggest it….It is the Flesh that takes it to the next level
Marriage has to be built on the Correct Foundation and once built re-fortified and improved constantly. Over and Over. God has to be in it….Point Blank
It’s work and if you are not willing to work it out then marriage is not for those who seek it.
How many people really know what they are getting into? Maybe this is a good point in which to see how honest people here are.
Yolanda did you know what you were getting into? If you did would you have still done it? Delores would you? Kathy? Karol? Tom? Monique? Desen’t the bible say, “Honesty is next to godliness.
Charles, I knew some things, but I don’t think anyone goes into marriage knowing everything about their mate. In addition to that, the joining of two different lives tends to change you, regardless of how close you were or how many things you had in common prior to marriage. We have to adapt to one another to make marriage work. If you are not willing to adapt, there will be problems. I don’t mean a total makeover, just adapt.
The other point I want to make is to concur with a point Kathy earlier made. People that tell raw truths usually can’t take what they dish out. My husband can be raw at times, but absolutely can’t handle raw truth when it comes from me. The last time I was raw with him he got so flustered that he almost got us all killed by driving into oncoming traffic. Fortunately, they were far enough away that they were able to slow down until he was able to re-direct the car. So as a result of that and other instances, I have honestly informed my husband that he will remain in the dark about certain subjects. And he’s fine with that. Is that deceit or dishonesty? Maybe, but since we have an understanding, it is our best course of action. I think he always expected me to be the nice, polite, somewhat shy girl he knew before we got married. Well, things change and people change. I’ve learned to give it back when it’s given to me. I also know when to hold it in – I don’t always give it back. You can’t always rise to a potentially heated discussion if you want to have your marriage work.
Charles, I appreciate your attempt to quote a bible verse. It’s not quite like that, but at least you know a little of it. Keep trying and hopefully somebody will come into your life that can help you with some more. God definitely honors honesty and despises lying so much that there’s a bible verse in Revelations that in raw language says all liars are going to hell. So where does that put us all? My answer is that it puts us in a place where we should always tell the truth. But also know that if we sometimes mess up, there is forgiveness if you ask for it with a truly repentant heart.
@Charles Davis Jr – Does the bible say that?
Ok, here’s honesty for me. I was single for 45 years. Saying I wanted to get married would be an understatement. I really really wanted to get married. But as I matured and got my degree and became good friends with myself, I settled into being single. Truly I did. I sent out approx. 50 – 75 resumes to the city where I wanted to live. And wouldn’t you know it, along comes the man I ended up marrying. (deep breath as I continue with truth…) I probably would not do it again, it I knew then what I know now.
My husband has a small child and that whole situation has been alot for me to deal with. (That is the truth although not real detaily) Also, he is military and that whole aspect of things has had its bennies and it drawbacks. And the last truth is, even if I don’t want to admit it or completely see it, being as old as we were; we were both set in our ways in many areas.
I’m still here and still married and as of now, still plan to be but to answer your question Charles, NONE of us ever know what we are getting into completely and no, I would not have still done it.
@Monique Davis – nice comments and oh so true!
No Charles, I would still be running. When I marched in, there was a man down at the alter waiting for me. When we turned around and marched back, it was with someone I did not know and from that very day he changes. I am now divorced but last year I had to have Open Heart surgery and he took care of me afterwards and I could not have asked for better treatment unless I was back in the hospital. If I had it to do again I would with someone else but not him. He has asked me to marry him again and will not do it. I also agree with you on Men and women being dogs. But the thing about men is that they can clean up the next day put on a nice clean white shirt and people forget what they did but a women has to carry it with her for the rest of her life. There are some real low down women out there.
.-= delores goodson´s last blog ..Rumored Mistress Breaks Her Silence =-.
No wonder marriage is declining….
It might be nice to be able to stay with someone and when the craps starts you can just leave. I was thinking that maybe we could have a 1 or 2 year trial and if you don’t like it you can get out with no penalty.
Dealing with someone’s baby mommie sounds like a lot of fun. Sort of like dealing with the father when you’re the step dad. I’ve never done it but I think I’m going to get me a black woman next time. I hear they are really wild in bed. Tarzan going to get him some jungle heat.
Please don’t be offended by my last comment. Nothing racial was intended.
Charles,
I’m not offended by your comment, but it’s probably about as true as what they say about black men and their sexual prowess. It’s all dependant on the individual. Size and ability changes with the individual, not necessarily the race. Or so I’ve been told.
I’m sure I must be part black…..
I was listening to a program and the blacks were complainig about Tiger only cheating with black women. One lady said that Tiger sould have not discriminated against black women. He clear is not attracted to them though…
Personally I love black women’s lips.. They don’t need any Botox. I’ve never done it but I’m going to. There are lots of black women in N.Y. who like white men. I’m going to make it my x-mas present.
@Charles Davis Jr – You are too funny! You do realize literally every woman you talk to or have talked to on kleverkathy is black! I have heard, more than once, white men are intrigued with black women but unlike black men who pursue white women, white men tend to care too much about what people think and don’t go there. Kudos to you for knowing what you want and going after it! Enjoy!
I thought most were black by the names and of course your face is on the front page. I don’t know why but suddenly I have a bad case of jungle fever. I’ve never felt like this before, but I’ve been watching some movies on Stars and I’ve noticed how black women have more of everything. Well Jaylow and Kim Kardee are exceptions…
I know of a club and maybe tonight I’ll go there. They play blues and I bet I can find me a fine black woman there. Enough cognac, some nice conversation might get her to like me… Especially when she finds out the I’m a “black” virgin and how I want to know what her kisses feel like…
I’m getting my swagger back after being married for so long. Tonight this cracker is going to lay down his best rapping skills at B.B. Kings Blues Club…
Black ladies if you are in the N.Y. area I’m available.
Charles, please keep us posted and let us know if we’re myths or legends.
@Monique Davis – That was reeally funny. Of cousre I’m very curious. I’l share something with you. There is this really sexy black ladt about 35, single, who lives in the Brownstone next door. She just came over to see if I would tkae her grocery order to the store and fill it and bring the items back when I get off tomorrow. I told her I would if she would go with me to the blues club tonight. SHE SAID YESS!!!
I think you all are good luck on here. It’s like magic. I talk to you baout what I want and from nowhere it just appears. LOL! I can’t believe it.
LOL! Charles, obviously this lady also has an interest in you if she felt comfortable enough to ask you to go shopping for her and agreed to go out with you. She made the first move, now it’s on you.
A word of advice, if you are taking a black woman to a black club, don’t have wandering eyes. This is your first date so you should have plenty to talk about without looking like you’re shopping around. That could get ugly. Stay focused on her.
Have fun!
Thanks for the advice, but if you saw her you’d understand…
I’ve gotten her groceries before. Driving her is sometimes impossible almost. I manage the store so it’s not problem.
I’m am artist and she was a model and now design’s clothing. Her and Pam Grier could be twins. Even the builds are the same…
You’re talking to one white man who is about to get himself a NAACP card.
guess who has a horrible hangover…??
And..”I didn’t have sex with that woman.”
Charles, to answer your question, NO!!! I would not have married who I did but it’s the individual not the whole institution of marriage that was wrong for me. I’m excited for you on your quest for a black woman and also hope you will keep us posted!
@Charles Davis Jr – Hey Charles. I’ve been told booze and women don’t go together but apparently you kept it together and didn’t let the booze have you giving yourself away on your first date! Good for you!
Hello everyone. I guess since you all are interested I do owe you all some kind of update. We had a great date. We took a cab there and back and I just hope we were not in one of those HBO cabs. She is the most dominate woman I’ve ever met. (”I didn’t have sex with that woman.”)
Anyway we both decided (she decided) to go to her place. We made out some more. I ended up passed out drunk, clothe, in her bed. I ‘ve only read about women like her. Not sure if she’s crazy or what.
I woke up tied up, on my back, with her draped across me. I had to pee and she would not let me up… It was almost a half hour….
I left….. She came over later and wanted to know why I was such a big chicken… She’’s been here since. I called off 2 days sick.
Every bone I have aches. My question is, Are all black women this…wild? crazy? I really can’t give all the details but she loves leather and latex bedroom garments and she siad that she always wanted to have a white man for her “boy.” I honestly am in way over my head with her. I’m not halfway sure what my name is. My back is crawed up. I have 2 bite marks on my chest and whelps everywhere.
We took something, some kind of pill. I didn’t mean to say all this. I’m not going to mess with her anymore… People in N.Y are crazy…
Charles,
I’m sure my response will be one of many. First of all your mother named you Charles, so that’s your name. Now….though you may have enjoyed it, I’d advise you to let her know that you aren’t into whips and chains (unless you are) and that you were just looking to have the beginning of a possible relationship or something. Obviously she gave you more than you were expecting, and she was probably trying to see how much see could do to you before you would really let her know that no means no. I just hope she hasn’t damaged our reputation with you. Trust me, we’re not all like that. If a man ever tried to tie me and whip me, he’d better be certain that he knew all the escape routes and didn’t go to sleep too quick.
@Charles Davis Jr – Gosh Charles. Unlike Monique, I don’t know how to respond. One thing I know about online blogs, you can say whatever you want to say and be whomever you want to be. Now, I am not call you a liar, after all, this is the post about telling the truth, I guess I am in such disbelief that these kinds of things really happen, I am just amazed that you would openly share in such detail.
Uh…. why did you call off of work for two days? Why are you sick? lol.
I will probably comment more later but for now I will just say… WOW!
I called off because I was too high or whatever to go to work.
Maybe I need to not talk about this anymore Kathy. You may have a good point. I never considered the consequences of being honest, but you’ve made me think…
I think that was ectasy she gave me. Monique I know you are right. She was testing me. There wasn’t really a lot of pain, except a couple of times. It was kind of like pain/pleasure though. I haven’t returned her calls today. Her last voice mail asked if “her white mouse was trying to hide from the black feline.”
@Charles Davis Jr – One thing I must say Charles, you are interesting and you keep me on the edge of my seat! I NEVER know what you will say next!
Try to keep your mouth shut and your teeth clenched tight when she comes toward you with the pills! This time ectasy next time, who knows! You could become addicted to something without your consent!
Charles,
While black feline is not the term that came to mind with me, I will say she enjoys being a dominatrix and probably seeks out those she deems weaker. Now would be a good time to let her know you’re a strong man and not her “boy”, sex slave or a punk.
I also do not appreciate the fact that she gave you the date rape pill. Even if she had it too. As Kathy said, who knows what she could slip you next and not tell you about. Even though we’ve never met, I am concerned about your well being. Be prepared, she’ll probably come over if you keep not answering her phone calls. If you do let her in, let her know where you stand. I suggest not drinking around her so you can keep your senses about you and avoid a repeat of last weekend or worse.
Charles,
Two things:
To answer you question of if I would have married again knowing what I know right now and all the stuff I had to find out in the mist of it all?! I would. Did he change? Yes and so did I…..But this one I will keep. I am suppose to be right where I am right now in My relationship and Life and that is the truth.
Charles, I know you are a grown man and I don’t really know you, but I am worried about you right now. I am glad you are not going to see her again. Not at least until I can run a Credit Background, Crimminal and Wanted for Custody check on her!!
We don’t know what and who she has been using those Latex, whips and Chains and Leather straps with? (you didn’t say whips and chains but, I had a room mate like her and where there is latex and leather, there are some whips and chains) LOL!!
I am glad she was not crazy?!? You don’t know what she did to you while you were in and out of right mind!!! And now you all on the News. And all of Kathys Blogs are going to be summons for court. We are all on the Stand testifying.
Sorry about that I got carried away!! But on the serious side. Be Careful and stop taking pills from people that are not Doctors!!
If you grow some breast, don’t say nothing……
@Yolanda Marion – ROTFL!
@Monique Davis –
Thanks to you and Kathy. Right now I do have some concerns. Her last message said I belonged to her and she’ll be waiting on me after work today..
I just read the other replys. That was funny stuff… I think.
I remember what happened. I was just in a fog. My nipples are real sore. I remember some steel clothes pins she used. At the time I wasn’t in a lot of pain, mostly discomfort, but I feel it today. I was pretty high.
Truthfully this is the weirdest thing I’ve ever had happen. I don’t think she is going to go away.
GTG to go. Produce delivery to the store….
…flowers from her. Invitation to tkae the ferry to Staton Island for dinner. I need to digest this…
Proceed with great caution, Charles. It might not be a bad idea to do as Yolanda suggested and check out her background and make sure she doesn’t have any documented issues that could come back to bite you.
I don’t have any right to tell you not to see her again, but just be careful. She knows where you live and where you work. The flowers and dinner invitation could be her way of luring you into her trap. All the messages from her bring to mind the word stalker. How about you????
@Monique Davis – I honestly have no idea about her… Stalker? I don’t thinks so. She’s a successful woman with a masters. Her mother is from Barbados and her father is Slavic.
She has this exotic look and this air about her that is like she is a queen or something. This is how she talks: Look into my eyes poopie. You are meant to serve me. You are mine my dear. Look into my eyes… Tell me you love your black queen and I will give you my heart and pleasures like you’ve never experienced..
I never really paid it much attention, but when I use to get her groceries she would be talking like this, Darling would you might doing me a huge favor and pick up these few items from the store? You are such a sweet man… She would just hand me the note and walk off.
Some things are coming to be that I never thought about…She has maybe 25 candles burning and she like music with a lot of congas and drums. (I just remembered she was pouring hot wax on me also.)
Look I need to…. Well think about this some more. Thanks for your advise. I’m kind of in the dark on a lot of things. I grew up on a farm and I think I could use some help. I’m going to talk to…
lol I just thought about it. I don’t know who I can talk to about this…I don’t have a priest..
@Charles Davis Jr – Oh my. It sounds like you need someone to talk to if nothing more than a guy friend who can look at the situation more objectively and not be mesmerized by the “look into my eyes poopie” talk! Got a buddy? Give him a call and explain the situation and see what he has to say!
@Kathy – Thanks Kathy but that’s the problem. Who would I tell this too and not feel like a fool? I’ve been thinking about this exact subject since Monique suggested it.
I get off in 30 minutes (6:00) And I know she’ll be waiting for me to come home. We have security so I can’t sneek in… I’m not looking forward to facing her. She is a very overwheling woman. I’m 5″ 10″ and she’s maybe an inch taller then me before wearing heels. I think she and Pam Greer could be twins.
No way around this I guess….
Hey I just thought about something. I’m going to get a hotel room. Thay way I can have time to think this out. I just want to say thank you all for your help. I thought geting divorced was a good idea. I’m not so sure now…….
Charles,
Have you ever considered bringing home another lady with you that is just a friend and is willing be a decoy for you without strings? Just a thought. However, I wish you the best. I know it’s not easy.
No I haven’t Monigue. I’ve be with 5 women in my lifetime….
Charles,
I wasn’t meaning a woman that you were going to be with or had been intimate with. Just someone that is a platonic friend that has your back and will help you out in a time like this. But wait, I guess living in NYC may not allow for those types of real friends without ulterior motives. I definitely have them here if I ever needed that kind of help. You need to find you a good church to go to so you can have friends that can be there for you when you need them. If you need one, let me know and I’ll give you a name and address of one. But it won’t be Catholic.