I have an Aunt and Uncle that are the closest I know to actually altering their day/night for the needs of someone else. One time when my mother and father were out of town and I thought there was a mouse in my apartment, I called them at 4:00 in the morning and they came right over bearing mouse traps! My Uncle whistled while he laid those traps and my Aunt held her normal, happy go lucky conversation with me. They only accepted a thank you and went on about their night/morning as if they had done nothing great! But they had! They actually fulfilled the, “if you need anything, just let me know, day or night” to perfection. They are great people! But again I say; that is so rare.

A while back I needed some things. I had been promised help if I was ever in this situation. It came. I called upon the promiser and the promise ended up void. Lol. I moved on and I depended on myself and others, but it was hard not to be bitter, especially when I felt like I had always been there for them! Another point, have you ever said you were going to do X Y and Z and a person steps up real quickly and says I’ll do it, only because it will benefit their greater cause for you not to do it. But then when it is all said and done, they didn’t do it for you and the time has passed for you to do it for yourself, and in the end, it wasn’t done. They could care less and have gone about their life, but not getting it done, greatly and adversely impacted your situation.

I guess what I’m saying is, can and should we ever depend on another person or should we only rely and depend on ourselves? My answer is, I believe we all need each other. I believe if God wanted us to not help each other, he would have given us all our own personal island and equipped us with the power to fulfill all of our own needs, but He didn’t. So yes, we need each other but can we really, truly depend on each other? Will you really get up in the middle of the night for me if you are tired and sleepy and have to work tomorrow? Does being there for your neighbor only hold true if their needs fall on the weekend? Does being there for someone come with the condition of you having free time at the moment, so helping does not interfere with your day?

I had a friend that would claim to be there for me, however, whenever I needed that friend, I could only depend on help about 30% of the time. My needs always came behind what was happening in their day! But is that really true help when you need it? My mother used to say, “if you can’t help a fellow when they need it, it isn’t really help”. I agree.

What do you think? I’ve said a lot here, but the simple question is: Do people really mean it when they say: “if you need anything, day or night, just let me know”?

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If I could sum her up with one sentence I would say: the classiest, most honorable female that epitomized “ladyness”! Since my mother’s passing, I think I have become more aware of other women. I have watched those come after her who, no doubt, consider themselves ladies but can’t quite seem to pull it off or get it right and unfortunately couldn’t buy class if it was offered at discount prices! That wasn’t nice was it? ) But you get my drift right? To me, my mom was the bomb!

I have never seen anyone carry the title in the same manner my mother did. She was every inch lady, grace, style and Godliness all rolled into one! And to top it off she loved me and she liked me! I wasn’t just her daughter, I was her friend! If I can bare a slight resemblance to her elegance, I will have made it!

That is what my mother means to me. Share with us what your mother means to you and share your Mother’s Day wishes to all the beautiful mothers of the world!

There is nothing like a mom! Holla back!